Is it okay to be in a relationship with someone who is HIV positive?
We are very careful! But He wonders should we be together in a romantic way? He told me it is very risky and that I know. So for now we are just friends and if we do anything we are very safe. Please be nice because this is very important and nothing to joke about. If ur gonna joke or be mean please say nothing. Thanks.
Posted on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm by Guest · Permalink
In: Health · Tagged with: Hiv, Hiv Positive, joke, Just Friends, Relationship
In: Health · Tagged with: Hiv, Hiv Positive, joke, Just Friends, Relationship
on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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I actually heard of this before. It is a risky situation. I consider it to be somewhat suicidal. But if you love him that much follow your heart. Make sure he loves you as much as you love him.. If not even more.. I wouldn’t waste my time if his love for you was any less then your love for him. But in all actuallity i think he worries for you and doesn’t want to risk your life so does not want you to be with him which means he really loves you. I think he understands your skeptical about it too. I would pray about it. Or be with him but just not sexually. You can have a very intimate relationship without sex. And you’d probably just be worrying about contracting hiv throughout the sexual acts which means no pleasure for you. So think about yourself as well. You can’t really love someone without loving yourself first. Dont be with him especially out of pity. Be with him cus u love him. Take care of him. Sex should not make a relationship and determine whether you are boyfriend and girlfriend. Let love be the basis of your relationship in this situation. U will be amazed how much you guys really love eachother with getting to know eachother really. If you could go with out sex and still be inlove i think it’s an amazing thing. But i dont think you guys should be having sex. I have herpes and i still am scared to be in a relationship with anybody.
on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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if u dont wanna have sex
on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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Asking this question im sure your aware this is an opinion answer but i feel like i have a good answer for you. with what you said im guessing he has the HIV and so heres what i have to say, if you truly love him and want to be with him for the rest of your life (marriage at some point) then it is ok, because if you want to spend the rest of your life with him then he is worth the risk. but if you don’t see anything long term or serious with him then don’t enter a relationship with him, don’t risk your health for someone who you would just be with you for a short not permanent time and is not the perfect one for you. only enter a romantic relationship if you think he is the perfect one for you. and if you decide you want to be with him still be very careful tho
on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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Yes it is possible but you most be very careful. My father had AIDS for 17 years from a blood transfusion and my mom and dad still had sex for a little while but then my dad got too scared and they stopped. It is possible but I wouldn’t do it. Its just too much to risk. I watched as AIDS killed my father and no sex or man is worth any of that.
on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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Dear concerned:
You are asking a tough question, a question that only you can answer yourself.
To tell you the truth, having HIV is not as fun as it sounds. The person you are in a friendship with is enduring a lot of pressure, and you need to know this before you risk your own health and join the party.
Therapy takes a lot of pills daily (toward the final cycles) when the doctor begins treatment. The side effects are many and they suffer emotional trauma, physical pain and suffering, and the effects are felt by close friends and family members. EVERY SINGLE DAY! You have no idea.
Very carefully you said, yes, even if 1 out of a 100, what would you tell your parents after you get infected? How would you family feel? Will the friends you have now accept you and HIV?
Financially, this is tough. Most survivors of HIV of more than 12 years are of the wealthy class. One example is someone who can fork over around 40k plus per year on medication alone. Most american’s salaries are not even up to 30k per year.
In conclusion, love is a fragile emotion. Love can be stronger than anything in this world. Heck, many people will sacrifice themselves for their love ones. But in many cases, they don’t have a choice. Like some of the soldiers that went over to iraq. Please don’t let your emotions cloud your logic. Accidents happen during sex. Condoms break, body fluids fly and skin gets damaged during sex.
If I am a friend, I will tell you not ok. If I am a stranger, I will tell you not ok. If I am your teacher, not okay. If I am your parents, I will smack you so hard and tell you, NOT OK!!!
If you are still going ahead with that relationship, it must be true love and I wish you the best of everything on earth.
Best wishes
on June 18, 2010 at 8:38 pm
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Yes . HIV + people need loving reletionships too !
I am a 24 year old woman who has been living with HIV for 4 years .
My partner is aware of my HIV status and the risk he takes when we have sexual intercourse .
I would also like to add that I am 28 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby .
If YOU are ok with his status and wel aware of the risks you may take in engaging in sexual behaviours than why not?
Your going to get many answers here that HIV people shouldnt be in reletionships , that you will die etc etc etc . As long as you know the risks , I suggest you go with your heart , many people all over the world are in reletionships with HIV + people .
Here is some more information to help you out :
http://www.ehow.com/how_2364022_date-someone-hiv.html
Love Is Love <3